When asked the best way to live, answers will vary. Doing what you want, when you want and with whom you want, happiness, health, peace, stress free, debt free and the most popular answer is usually living in balance. Most of us seek work-life balance. We want to dedicate the time and energy needed to our careers while having the time and energy to devote to our personal lives. Experience has taught me that while balance is important, satisfaction is just as important if not more important. What good is balance if you are not satisfied in your professional and/or personal life? How can you keep the 2 separate when one influences the other? Dissatisfaction in the work life leads to dissatisfaction in the personal life. The “unsatisfied” employee goes home and takes negative energy into his personal life. The “satisfied” employee may be willing to work longer hours and is more likely to take positive energy into his or her personal life as a result of this satisfaction. Our personal and professional lives complement each other. When we are satisfied in both our professional and personal lives; balance becomes more of an organic process.
You may be wondering; “How can I live a more satisfying life?” If you find yourself caught in the matrix of existing in the same daily routine; you may be wondering if it is possible to live a more satisfying life. It is possible if you are willing to take the time to examine your value structure. What influences your decision making? What guide do you use when making those tough decisions? When ethical dilemmas arise, what guides you in making the best decision in a given situation?
When thinking of principles to living a more satisfying life; again we must examine our values, morals and beliefs. Upon examining our values, morals and beliefs, you must be courageous enough to hold true to these when making decisions, especially life changing decisions. Following this process will allow you to develop principles to live a more satisfying life.
In doing the work; I have developed 3 principles to living a more satisfying life.
Be the best version of you: You are either making decisions to become a better version of you or a lesser version of you. Does your current job allow you to be the best version of you? Do your intimate relationships or friendships allow you to be the best version of you? If the answer to any of these questions is no, reflect on the reasons you cannot be the best version of you in this situations. Will you have the courage to say yes to the things that make you a better you and no to the things that don’t?
Discipline: When I think of discipline, one of my late grandfather’s favorite sayings comes to mind “A fool and his money will soon depart.” This saying applies to so many facets of our lives-finances, health, career, family. Most of us can obtain almost anything we put our minds to, but very few have the discipline to sustain certain lifestyles. The most successful people have mastered the challenge of choosing between what they want now and what they want most. The key to discipline is winning the daily battle with yourself. Will you live with the pain of discipline or the pain of regret?
Integrity: “Doing the right thing when no one is watching” is a saying that comes to mind when thinking of integrity. Integrity is choosing between what’s convenient and what’s right. Integrity is choosing your thoughts and actions based on values rather than personal gains. When making tough decisions, are you able to have peace of mind knowing you did the right thing? Oftentimes making the right choice will not be the popular choice. Success without integrity is failure.
Now it’s time to hear from you. What principle(s) guide you in living a satisfying life?
Sharise Hemby-Nance is a licensed therapist and award winning author with 15 years of experience in relationship building and work-life balance. For more information or assistance with stress management, please contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org