Have you ever spent time around someone who seems to never have anything positive to say? When asked how their day is going, brace yourself for a laundry list of everything wrong in life. An uncle of mine used to say these people were “happy to be mad.” Oftentimes they have alienated quality people from their lives because of their negative outlook on life. The good news is there is still hope for this group to transform their negative thinking into positive thinking. One may question the benefits if they view life as unfair. Life is unfair, but what if I told you that life is 10 percent of what happens to us and 90 percent how we respond. If my math is correct, this adds up to us having huge control over our lives. Will you choose to traverse through life expending energy with a negative attitude? Or, are you ready to transform your thoughts to positive thoughts and experience a paradigm shift?
One of the distinguishing characteristics between successful and unsuccessful people is their mindset. Successful people do not succumb to the seduction of victimhood and sing the “Woe is me” blues. Successful people choose to stare in the eyes of adversity as their unwavering commitment to their goals will not allow them to quit. When problems arise, successful people view problems as “possibilities” or opportunities to learn and grow. The more successful people have actively taken steps to make their thoughts assets instead of liabilities. You may be wondering; how do they accomplish such a simple but powerful task? Based on my experiences, observations and conversations with the more successful people in life; I have learned that their answers to the following questions separates them from others.
Who do you spend your time around? “If you’re the smartest person in the room, find another room.” Do you spend time around people who inspire, encourage, challenge and motivate you? Or, do you spend time around people who criticize, discourage and drain you. We are the sum or our 5 closest friends and oftentimes we can find at least one quality that we share with those friends. We attract who we are and where we are in life. If your desire is to shift your thought process and become more successful, take a look at your circle. I discuss this concept further in my book Vitamin C: The Healing Workbook, which can be found here.
How do you spend your time? Time can be our ally or our friend. I am a firm believer in “work hard, play hard.” However, I also come from the generation where parents told us “if you are too sick to go to school you are too sick to play.” The purpose of this concept was to instill work ethic. The ways in which we choose to spend or invest our time will determine our level of success. You can also read more about the impact time has on our level of success in my blog about balancing full time employment and part time entrepreneurship here.
What book(s) are your reading? Are you reading? Our brains are like gardens and the seeds we plant in our brains by the material we choose to read can impact our thoughts.
What thoughts dominate your mind? Do you focus on the problems or the opportunities? If we remain problem focused, we are more likely to view life as problematic. The more successful people are problem solvers. They identify the problem and use their resources to find solutions.
Where do you see yourself in 5 years? What legacy do you want to leave behind? Are you living or existing? Do you go through the motions or apply yourself? Another characteristic of successful people is they have long-term thinking. They begin with their end in mind and work in the present to plant seeds for their legacy.
Who inspires you? Who do you look up to? Do you have an accountability partner? As aforementioned, the more successful people are mindful of whom they share space, time and energy. Most successful people started their journey with a mentor, someone who tells us what we need to hear, not what we want to hear. I encourage you to reflect on one person you look up to. If you haven’t already, reach out to them and pick their brains. Successful people are usually not hoarders of information and are more than willing to share their knowledge with people who are open to learning.
The direction of our lives can begin with one thought! Our thoughts become our words, our words become our behaviors, our behaviors become our habits, and our habits become our values, which can ultimately determine our destiny. Remember, whether you think you can or cannot, you are absolutely correct.
How do you keep negative thoughts at bay? How has your life been impacted by positivity and/or negativity? Please share your experiences.
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